Why
Women Play "Head Games" With Men
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***THIS WEEK'S
QUESTION***
Hi, I just want
to say that I've had tremendous success and confidence
with women after reading your stuff... I feel like I
understand them so well. You really do know your sh**!
I guess it should have been obvious that teasing women
and acting cocky was the way to their heart, as you
can see it happening all over, but for some reason
this just never clicked in my brain, and I always had
this delusion that being the nicest, most sensitive
guy she's ever met would make her swoon. Most of
these dating tip books emphasize conversation, and
what to talk about with a women.. while that doesn't
really matter too much, it's your attitude. Good ups,
man. Anyway, I have a question. Although I
hardly ever fail with women after being enlightened,
when I'm first meeting a girl and teasing her and
being cocky etc etc (you know the drill), they respond
well and seem to be interested in me. However, when I
ask for the number, lots (not necessarily most, but a
good number) of girls initially say "Oh, my number's
disconnected." or "I just moved, and haven't gotten
new phone number installed yet." However, when I give
a cocky response, or even if i just say "yeah right",
they IMMEDIATELY concede and give me their number...
and lo and behold, it works. I'm just wondering why
they make up those lies if they're going to give in
INSTANTLY. I wouldn't think that this was too
important if it happened once or twice, but there
seems to be a trend here. What's going on?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm really glad
that you asked this particular question because it's
hard for a lot of guys to believe that this kind of
thing could be real (or at least so common). But, the
fact is once you really get out there and start
meeting women, you start to see patterns. And some of
those patterns are quite unexpected.
My translation
of what you just asked is: "Why do women play games
when you ask for their number?"
In response to
your question, I'm going to give you a two-pronged
answer:
1) The
psychology of what's going on here.
2) The
technique: How I deal with this particular situation,
and others like it.
THE PSYCHOLOGY
Let me tell you
a short story. A few years ago, I did some work
with a guy that had a particularly interesting
technique for hiring people. Here's what he did: After
interviewing people for the position, he'd call back
the one he liked BEST, and say: "I wanted to call and
thank you for applying for this job, but I just don't
think you're the right person for the position"... and
then he'd listen. If the person said, "OK, well
thank you" he'd just hang up and call the next
favorite one.
On the other
hand, if they said, "Wait a minute, I am the best
person for the position, I'm sure of it" etc. he'd
say, "Well, tell me more.
Why do you think
so?" I actually listened to him do this live on the
speakerphone one day in his office with a woman that
he had interviewed. Sure enough, when he said "Well, I
just don't think you're the right person..." she
answered with "Why not? I am the best..." etc. And,
sure enough, he hired her. The point here is
that in a hiring situation, there are usually many
people applying. An interviewer needs to have ways of
quickly filtering through and disqualifying the
unacceptable candidates. And a SAVVY interviewer will
have ways of quickly finding the EXCEPTIONAL
candidates.
This was a great
technique for doing just that. I'm sure you can
see where I'm going with this. I can remember when I
first started "walking up" to women and trying to get
their phone numbers. If I had a dollar for every woman
that said: "Why don't you give me yours, and
I'll call you instead" or... "I don't give out my
number" or... "I'll give you my pager number" or... "I
lost my phone and my number is disconnected and the
dog ate my homework and there was an accident..." I
think you get the picture.
Well, one
fateful day, probably out of frustration, when a woman
started to give me an excuse, I just looked at her,
pointed to the piece of paper I had and said: "Just
write it down, it's going to be OK."
And, lo and
behold, she wrote her number down. I thought,
"No way, it must have been an accident." So, I
tried it again the next time I got resistance. Sure
enough, it worked again. As a matter of fact, it's
worked so well, and so many times, that it's my
"standard line" whenever I get resistance from a
woman. Really. You'll even find it written
explicitly as part of my "3 Minute Phone Number (and
email) Technique" in my book Double Your Dating.
THE TECHNIQUE
The long and the
short of it is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN ARE APPROACHED
ALL THE TIME. THEY NEED QUICK, EASY WAYS TO FIGURE OUT
IF YOU'RE EITHER THE REAL DEAL OR A WUSS THAT GIVES UP
AT THE FIRST SIGN OF RESISTANCE. Hint: Polite
men that say, "Oh OK, sorry for bothering you..." or
"OK, here's my number, call me..." are not SEXY or
ATTRACTIVE. On the other hand, men that say (Some of
my favorites):
"Oh, it's OK...
you don't have a phone? That's nothing to be
embarrassed about" or "And you expect me to believe
that?" in a cocky, funny way instantly telegraph the
message: "I'm not a girly-man that gives up easily,
and I see through your games. I don't buy it" are VERY
ATTRACTIVE. It just says all the right things.
So, here are a
few things to remember:
1) Attractive
women are approached all the time by men, and are
constantly being asked for their number.
2) If you were a
woman who is getting asked for your phone number forty
seven times a day, you'd probably make excuses
yourself.
3) The excuses
and "Why don't you give me yours" type responses weed
out about 95% of the losers that have no spine and no
persistence.
4) If you're
READY for this in advance, and you KNOW what you're
going to say and do when it happens, AND you don't
answer with a lame, needy, wuss response, you increase
your chances of getting the number DRAMATICALLY.
5) Confident,
cocky, funny responses are a great way to power
through these situations. Of course, if you use
my 3-Minute technique the way I've presented it in a
past newsletter and in my book, you'll greatly reduce
this type of resistance in the first place and you'll
know exactly what to do if and when you run into
excuses and resistance.
Let's face it:
Attractive women get a lot of attention. They're not
looking for a guy that throws himself at her, and then
gives up easily. They're looking for a guy that has
all kinds of self confidence, and sees right through
her games... to the point where he disarms her and
walks away with the digits.
Think about it.
And, of course, if you want to learn more about how
the female mind works, plus dozens and dozens of
specific techniques to attract women, get their
numbers and emails, get more dates, and take things to
a physical level, you need to download a copy of my
book, "Double Your Dating".
You can download
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technique... the one I call "Cocky & Funny", then you
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I'll talk to you
again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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