investing in your program, but I have a question for
you before I do. Essentially, I'm no longer looking to
hook up with women left and right. In fact, I think
I've met "the one," but I'm having trouble making her
realize this. I've been pursuing her for about
five months (during part of which time she was away at
school, but we kept in regular contact, at first
through e-mail and, later, over the phone), and I get
the sense that she's very guarded about relationships.
goal oriented (which is one of the many things I love
about her, BTW), and therefore very busy, and - I
suspect - she's been burned in the past, relationship
wise. At any rate, on a couple of occasions, it felt
to me as if things were moving forward, and then she
backpedaled; perhaps she "got spooked," and took a big
step back to protect herself. Most recently, we were
out for the first time since she finished school, and
- insofar as I was able to determine, I was getting
the green light all night: at a movie, I slipped my
arm around her and she leaned in, resting her head on
my shoulder; later, we were at a club for a band, and
when we were ready to leave, she reached across the
table and held my hand for a while; on the way back to
the car, it was pretty chilly, and when she complained
about the chill, I stepped over and hugged her. She
responded by stepping into it: she pressed her face
hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full body to
body contact - hip to hip, shoulder to shoulder and
everything in between. When we got back to her place,
I moved to kiss her and she shied away such that it
would have been *extremely* awkward for me to actually
At any rate,
we've gotten together since (in fact, I offered to
cook dinner for her, and she somehow maneuvered it
around such that I was *her* guest, and she cooked for
me) and we talked a while. As I said above, I think
she got a little spooked. She specifically said that
she thought the relationship could've evolved into
something romantic, but that it hasn't, and she wasn't
sure why. At this moment, she says she doesn't believe
it will. We remain *very* close friends, but I still
believe she's the one, and I've told her that I'm
still going to pursue this, and she's keen on still
spending time together (for her, for now, as close
My question is
this: do you believe your program can aid me in
turning her around on this? If so, why?
OK, sit down for
this. Hold on to something tight because I'm
going to yell at you for your own damn good... YOU ARE
TOTALLY MISSING WHAT'S GOING ON! THIS WOMAN ACTUALLY
LIKES YOU, AND YOU'RE SCREWING IT ALL UP BY ACTING
LIKE A NEEDY WUSS BAG!
If you were
closer, I'd slap you myself.
Whew. Let me
calm myself. As you know, I don't usually get so
worked up. That makes three exclamation marks in one
email, and I haven't even started lambasting you
proper yet. (What is lambasting, anyway? And is that
how you spell it? It's such a great word. I
really should look it up and find out.)
OK, I'm calm.
NOW, let's have a little talk here... The reason why
this kind of situation bothers me is at least twofold:
1) Because I've
been in it myself about a bazillion and a half times,
and it sucks to be screwing something up and not even
realize that you're doing it.
2) I can tell
from your email that you actually like this girl A
LOT, and that she's probably a fantastic woman... and
I hate to see you working so hard against yourself...
and screwing this up when it's right there in front of
you for the taking.
Before I tell
you all the reasons why you most DEFINITELY should
invest in my Advanced Dating Techniques program, let
me give you a few pointers that might help you STOP
screwing this up in the meantime.
Or, if the fear
of a verbal beating has already convinced you, then
don't even think about it... just go here and get
yourself a copy: OK, back to the basics. Let's
take this from the top... At the very beginning of
your email, you said something that basically
telegraphed EXACTLY what was going on here...
You said, "...I
think I've met "the one," but I'm having trouble
making her realize this. I've been pursuing her for
about five months..." You're having trouble
making her REALIZE this? You've been PURSUING her? Do
you assume that at some point within the NEXT five
months that she's going to wake up one day and feel a
powerful ATTRACTION for you because you like to chase
her around and tell her how you feel about her?
make fun of you here, and tell you that you don't get
it... blah blah blah. But for some reason I feel like
I just have to lay things out for you directly.
Look, man... the reason why she's telling you that she
"doesn't know why it hasn't evolved into something
romantic" is that she doesn't FEEL IT. She doesn't
FEEL IT. Get it? SHE DOESN'T FEEL IT! She doesn't feel
ATTRACTION for you. And you can't CONVINCE her
to feel it by chasing her around and telling her how
you "feel" about her.
Attraction, as I
always say, ISN'T A CHOICE. You're acting like most
guys who think things like: "If she only knew how I
felt about her, she'd feel the same way" and "If I
keep pursuing her, she'll eventually see how much I
love her" etc.
Well guess what?
AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY. Right now you are
playing what is referred to as a "losing game".
Think of it this
way. If you stop on the way home from work every day
and buy a lottery ticket, you'll win once in awhile.
Hell, you might even be lucky one day and win big.
But your chances
SUCK. You're probably going to lose a LOT more than
you win over time. Like I said, you COULD win big.
There is a chance. But you probably won't. And I mean
probably with a BIG P. I refer to the way that
you're acting as "Being a Wussy" (that's the technical
term... made it up myself).
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When you act
like a Wussy, you do things like:
- Share "feelings"
- Act submissive
- Seek approval
- Pine away
This is WUSSY
behavior. It's distinctly FEMININE in nature.
When guys act like this, they're getting in touch with
their inner little girl (and she needs a spanking in
the worst way). And are you ready for the WORST,
WORST part? When you act like this around a
woman (and ESPECIALLY a "goal oriented" woman who's
probably smart and powerful) they CANNOT feel the
emotion of ATTRACTION towards you. Women aren't
attracted to Wussies. This is a UNIVERSAL truth.
And, by the way that you describe your relationship
with this woman, SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE ATTRACTED TO
man. And she probably KNOWS that you'd be a
great guy to be in a relationship with... but she just
doesn't FEEL IT... so she holds back. I'm sure she
WISHES that she could be attracted to you. I'll bet
you money. Look, you need to STOP acting like a
nice, friend guy Wuss IMMEDIATELY if you want this to
turn into something.
beyond help with this particular woman, but I'm going
to give you a few ideas JUST IN CASE...
1) Stop calling
her all the time (if you do), and stop spending so
much time with her.
2) Start dating
other women IMMEDIATELY, and make sure she knows about
3) Stop being
all lovey with her, and don't tell her how you "feel
about her" anymore. Stop it.
4) Accept that
you will probably be friends with her forever, and
start acting that way.
5) Don't try to
kiss her or be physical with her at ALL anymore until
you understand what you're doing.
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you're doing ISN'T WORKING. If you do these
things that I've described, you will probably have the
best chance of turning this around.
NOW, the next
thing you need to do is what you asked me about in
your email... GET MY ADVANCED DATING TECHNIQUES
PROGRAM. You need a new perspective on this
entire situation. And you need a new perspective on
a smart guy, and once you begin to understand how
ATTRACTION works for women, you'll change how you
transformation. And the best part is that you
won't be changing how you act and just "faking it".
You'll change how you act because you GET IT. It's
really fantastic to HELP a woman feel that magical
ATTRACTION for you that she REALLY WANTS TO FEEL.
And it's also amazing to know exactly how to get
physical with a woman without having to deal with the
awkward "shy away from the kiss" situation that you
described in your email. I guarantee that when
you listen to and/or watch this program, it will
FOREVER CHANGE how you think about and act around
women. Period, end of story.
Here, let me
give you the hard-sell... I had to learn all of this
stuff the hard way. I've been right where you
are many, many, MANY times in my life. It sucks. I
know it does. The reason why my program will be
good for you is because it was good FOR ME FIRST. I
teach what I do.
And because I
also believe that you should only have to pay for
something that you find value in,
I'll send it to
- At my risk.
- In a plain package so your mom doesn't know
- Free for you
to try for a MONTH.
I'm betting that
once you have it in your hot little hands that I
couldn't pry it away from you with a crowbar.
OK, enough of me
trying to convince you of something you already know.
...and if you're
reading this right now and you haven't yet downloaded
your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", I
have something to tell you... My eBook is the
foundation for everything that I teach in these
newsletters, and it's the foundation for my Advanced
Dating Techniques Program.
surprised when they listen to the Advanced Program,
because I don't just rehash Double Your Dating and
talk about a few new tricks.
Series is almost all new stuff. And you need to read
Double Your Dating TOO, because it contains a lot of
valuable material that sets the stage for everything
else. It's here, go download it now:
I'll talk to you