WOW. It works. I started by reading part of your book,
and used some of it, and it worked great. I couldn't
believe that it was your advice that helped me, I
thought it was a shift in the universe or something.
It was amazing. So, I went back to being a wussbag.
The girl who accepted me one day rejected me the next.
Bewildered, I continued to read your book, applied it
once again, and I now get plenty of wonderful feedback
from women of all sorts (not to mention the wonderful
But, my question is this. How
cocky is too cocky? I have stated the meekest positive
aspect of myself and other times flouted my greatness.
I do not know what the limit is, and I know it must
exist. Mustn't it?
MSY, from Maryland
You're asking a good question
here. Remember, the formula isn't "Cocky". The
formula is "Cocky PLUS Funny". You can say just
about ANYTHING as long as what you are saying is
actually FUNNY. Remember, this technique is very
powerful. It's a way of communicating with women that
actually TRIGGERS and then AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION.
I've learned that "arrogance" or "cockiness" is NOT
unattractive to women... as long as they're not an
obvious over compensation for INSECURITY. When
you ask me what the "limit" is, what I hear you saying
is, "I'm afraid to push this too far". Don't let
your own insecurities and doubts stop you from using a
great technique. Use it. But make sure you add
the all powerful ingredient: HUMOR. The humor is what
makes this technique magic.
I've been enjoying your
advanced series very much, and have found a lot of
success over the last few months. All this success is
exciting, but I'm finding that I have to rethink my
usual responses to just about everything. A case in
point: Last night over the phone, the woman I've been
spending the most time with lately spent a lot of
effort telling me how much she loves me. In fact, I
think she's really falling for me hard. The question
is, though, how do I respond to a woman that gets all
mushy without spending all of my attraction points? If
she says something like "I've fallen in love with you"
or "I love you soooooo much", what are some examples
of things to say back that will keep the attraction
Your devoted fan, A in Oregon
Yeah, that's one of the
fringe benefits of learning these concepts... women
actually start to LOVE you. You left an important part
out of your question... You didn't mention how you
feel about this girl yourself, and what YOU want out
of the relationship.
I'll have different answers
for you based on what your intentions are. But to give
you the most direct answer to your question of how to
respond to this... take a page out of the "Han Solo
Manual For Responding To Women Who Say That They Love
You". Remember at the end of Empire Strikes Back when
Han was about to be frozen in Carbonite, and Princess
Leia said, "I Love You"? Remember what Han said back?
He said, "I know". Cocky, Funny, and Evasive.
"I don't blame you."
"Well, I would if I were you."
...these are all fun.
One warning: If this woman is
ACTUALLY falling in love with you because you've been
seeing her five times a week for the last six months,
then you need to remember that this is a serious
thing. If you've gone out with her 4 times over
the last 3 weeks, that's different. But, if she thinks
you're getting married soon, then you might want to
consider what you really want out of this, and act
I must commend you on that
masterpiece you wrote, your Double Your Dating. You
captured my attention and maintained it through out
the entire reading! I actually downloaded it
this morning 'round 8:00 or so and you kept me reading
it until almost noon! I don't think there's another
person out there that has EVER kept my attention so
intensely though such a restricted and normally dry
medium! I found much of the thoughts you
expressed to be very insightful and exceptionally well
communicated. This being said, I find myself in a
conundrum that seems like it would lend itself to your
expertise. A bit of pre-amble.....
I'm 22 years old and I live
in Ontario, Canada but only about 10 minutes from the
Michigan border. About 3 months ago I joined
some sorta gay-assed meeting service online here more
out of curiosity than anything else but I came across
this one wondrous lady from Michigan who lives about
an hour and a half away. We've emailed each other
probably 60-70 times and we've talked on the phone
quite a number of times as well but we've never met in
person yet. Well that day is to be approaching soon
and I've come across a conflict of ideas now that I've
read your book. For the most part, everything I do is
the opposite of what you suggest with the odd
exception like my humorous nature. The problem lies in
the idea of changing my character to suit what you
described (in a VERY logical manner) to be the ideal
actions a fellow is to take. I have an interest in
her, and she (as far as I can tell) has an interest in
me... but the idea of being very non-challant and sort
of distant/hard to get although it appeals to me
GREATLY with someone new, I'm not sure would be
advisable in this situation. If you could give me some
feed back I would be greatly indebted to your wisdom
Thanks for your time, J
In your email you said, "I
don't think there's another person out there that has
EVER kept my attention so intensely though such a
restricted and normally dry medium!"
I'll tell you what man... if
you keep talking this way the "medium" isn't the only
thing that's going to be dry. Someone get this
guy a copy of the "How to talk like a normal guy that
most people don't think is a JACKASS" manual.
Look man. You can't go
through life trying to sound like you're more
intelligent than everyone else... especially when
you're 22... unless you want women to respond to you
the way the woman in the bar responded to Russell
Crowe's advances in "A Beautiful Mind". Watch the
movie if you need the specifics.
It's OK to be smart. No
problem. But when you try to TALK like you're smart,
you usually end up coming off as insecure and nerdy.
Case in point: Your email.
And no, saying "gay-assed" doesn't make you cool.
Trust me. Now, as for your girl situation... If
you've met a girl on the internet and emailed her back
and forth 60 or 70 times, then you should probably do
what has worked for you so far, and don't change what
you're doing just because you read my book.
You're going to want to practice for a little while
before you go completely changing your entire
personality with a woman who thinks she's going to be
marrying you soon. (Did I say that?) You're
dealing with a classic problem:
You don't know how to meet
women effectively, so this one woman is VERY
IMPORTANT. If you start doing the things that I
recommend with her, and it doesn't work out, you'll
blame me... when it was probably your fault for acting
like her girlfriend for the last 47 years by email.
Go meet more women. Practice
what you've learned. And do what you've been doing
with the girl you met online, because if you change
into a different person right before her eyes she
might think you're psycho... and get a restraining
order against you. Hell, I'm trying to figure out why
she doesn't have one ALREADY the way you talk...
I know, I know. I'm a funny
guy. And, another thing (or two)... Get yourself
a copy of this:
And, a copy of this:
They will help you
I just used cocky+funny in an
email to an ex- girlfriend. She wrote back saying,
"what's with the attitude? Do you find it increases
your client's confidence in you when you comment on
their rack?" Not a good sign. What can I do? She is
getting married in two weeks, but I am hoping she
eventually gets back together and/or has lots of sex
with me. She broke up with me five years ago because I
cheated on her. I've been trying to save it ever
since, but up until now, had totally turned into a
wuss in my contacts with her. Can I save this one?
lol... OK, your question fits
into the "You're the dumbest person I've heard from
Say what? Let me get this
straight... Your ex broke up with you FIVE YEARS AGO,
because you CHEATED ON HER...
Then you turned into a WUSSY,
and have behaved that way towards her EVER SINCE...
Now she's engaged to be MARRIED in two weeks... Then
you emailed her recently and commented on her RACK in
an attempt to get her back (or at least get her to
have "lots of sex" with you)? And the best part of
"Can I save this one?"
That's your answer. You can
pay me later for it.
Now that I'm attracting women
like crazy thanks to your info and especially the
DVDs, I'm wondering how to approach scenarios where
women who I see on a regular basis are flirting with
me big-time, specifically waitresses in bars I hit on
a regular basis, girls who work in my neighborhood
Starbucks, etc. Every time I come back the flirting
gets more blatant and intense, and most of these girls
are college-age (I'm 30) and VERY attractive. On one
hand, I feel like I should hold off on getting their
email/number and let the suspense and attraction
build, but on the other hand if I wait I think they
may interpret me as a Wussy and think I don't have the
balls to move in for the kill. To complicate matters,
these girls all happen to work in places that I use to
meet women and so there are all the obvious issues
that arise if I hook up with a waitress and then she
sees me getting other women's numbers a week later.
Well, good job "attracting
women like crazy". That's a good thing. Now onto your
1) Don't wait 100 years to
get a woman's number. Do it NOW. Letting the "suspense
and attraction build" can wait until you've gotten her
number and gone out with her...
2) Your issue of avoiding the
women who work in places you frequent is probably
sound. I personally don't date women that work in my
favorite restaurants and coffee shops. But, keep in
mind, these types of jobs are usually SHORT- LIVED. In
this situation, it's a GOOD idea to tease and keep the
attraction building. It's fun as hell, and it can
payoff in the future.
I am out on my own after
nineteen years of being a Provider and have found I
need a new paradigm shift in my thinking when it comes
to dating and being a Lover. So, blah blah blah and
kudos to you from all of us suckups out here who are
being de-wussified under the tutelage of your
information. I bought the ebook and the advanced
techniques cd and it has been great learning this
material. I work in a place that provides internet
access to some students so I am actually paid to be
online at work. If nothing is going on with our
network I have lots of downtime with nothing to do so
decided to start practicing online with women. It is
amazing what that one word "brat" can do in a fun
playful situation of C&F.
Here are a couple of my
successes with just that one word....
ME: So, you aren't a brat are
HER: See for yourself. <file transfer..she's sending
me a pic without my asking> ME: This isn't one of
those nude pics is it? It's way too early in the
relationship for anything like that.
HER: LOL, no. Did you get it?
ME: Yes.<Open up pic to see photo of a bikini clad
HER: Well? ME: I was right.
ME: You are a brat!
HER: What do you mean?
ME: I can see it in your smile and in your eyes.
You're a brat!
NEXT MORNING...receive instant message from her
HER: Hey Sweetie, how are you
ME: You aren't one of those
bratty girls are you?
HER: What if I want to be? ME: Because then I'd have
to spank you... ME: nah, you might like it too much if
I did (TOOK A SHOT IN THE DARK ON THIS ONE)
HER: You're right, I would (BINGO! HIT THE JACKPOT)
HER: You can't handle it? ME:
Oh that's not the problem, I
usually don't have sex on the first date... (Needless
to say, we are getting together very soon)
I wasn't trying to do
anything but have a little fun practicing online
and...well, go figure. :-)
Ah yes, another guy who "gets
it". You've obviously paid attention to the
subtle things that I teach in my Advanced Dating
Good for you. It is amazing when you treat women
like your "Bratty Little Sister". ESPECIALLY
women who are used to having guys chase after them and
compliment them constantly on their beauty.
And the kind of conversation
you're using with her works PARTICULARLY well ONLINE.
It's COMPLETELY different from what all the other
loser guys are saying. Good job, and thanks for
the killer examples.
As a guy who used to be
scared to death to approach women, to being that suave
"Bad Boy" that isn't needy and throws out the C&F like
he was born with it took a lot of work, and your
series DEFINITELY helped speed the process along. The
biggest advice that I got from one of your newsletters
that helped me climb out of my shell was the
realization that I really didn't have anything to lose
when approaching women. Rejection did not put me at a
loss at all, and this same attitude gets me numbers,
emails, and TONS of dates everytime.
My problem now is my male
friends. Going from a loser to the ladies man was
great, but I can't bring girls around my friends
because they act like total wuss bags, and it makes me
look bad. I tried to convey your wisdom to them
myself, and they seem to understand, but they lack
confidence to try things with women. What
recommendations do you have for ways to gain
confidence? One guy in particular has some major
issues. He's been courting a girl now for 4 mo. Hasn't
kissed her more than just on the cheek. He says he
doesn't want to screw it up by being too forward with
her, mostly because it's his first "girl-friend" in
the last 4 years. If he'd have a little more
confidence in himself he'd be either move his
courtship into an actual relationship, or end it
completely and find a girl worth his time, since I
think this girl is just playing him. I told him to
just kiss her and see what happens after that, but
he's the kind of guy who waits for something to happen
to him, and then take it with a grain of salt rather
than making decisions that will direct him where he
wants to go. It pisses me off that he's such a wuss,
and I'm really good friends with him, but he needs to
get his game together real soon, cause it's throwing a
wrench in my game when I try to bring women around
him. Any advice would be really helpful. thanks again
J Spokane, WA
Yeah, you're welcome. I
feel your pain. As I made this change in my own life,
I found the exact same thing happening to me. "You can
lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink"
goes the old saying. I have a suggestion... Try
some of the new things you've been learning on your
GUY friends. No, don't kiss them... Instead,
don't talk about your success very often, and when
they ask, just say "Naw, you probably wouldn't
understand". They'll start saying "What, what? Tell
me!" Only after they've promised to respect what you
tell them and actually listen should you share the
Your buddy with the girl he's
been dating for 4 months is either going to wind up
1) A wife who OWNS him.
2) A girlfriend who cheats on him.
3) A broken heart.
4) All of the above.
95% chance. Mark my words.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
I am one of those women
fortunate enough to be what you call exceptionally
attractive. I've done modeling for years (mostly
lingerie and swimsuit). I've read several of
your newsletters and I must say congratulations. You
always hear that no man will ever understand women,
but you have come closer than any man I've ever known
to pinpointing exactly what works. I sent a copy of
your newsletter to the man I'm currently dating
because a lot of the things you say remind me of him.
The cocky & funny bit is awesome. Men have to do
something unexpected to get and keep a woman's
attention. Showering with gifts and basically being a
pushover gets BORING very quickly. I've dated the most
attractive men, and some that people would actually
say to me "What are you doing with him?" It's all how
you come across to a woman and the confidence you
exhibit. You are absolutely right by saying that men
have to make a woman want them and keep the attraction
building. In fact, the man I'm dating made me
want him more by backing off from sex. I literally had
him Naked and very able to perform, but several times
he backed away with some cocky/funny excuse. Now we
have the most awesome physical attraction and sex just
keeps getting better. If some of these guys don't
believe what you say, then let them continue to have
their boring lives as "wussies".
Once again, I must say
NEW RULE: Beautiful women who
email me are REQUIRED to send pictures. I get some,
but now it's the law.
I mean, how can I REALLY,
REALLY know if you're telling me the truth?
OK... on to your letter.
I appreciate your comments
and compliments. It always amazes guys when they
finally have that "Ah Ha!" moment and realize that
beautiful women are NOT attracted to men who act like
WUSSIES. The sad part about this whole thing is
that most guys act like Wussies as their MAIN STRATEGY
The ONE THING that can NEVER
work is also the one thing that most guys do most
often. Go figure. Thanks for your letter. And
get rid of that loser you're dating so you can pursue
...and that about wraps it up
for this week... except for one more thing... I was
reading an email that I got from a guy recently.
In the email, he said, "It's
funny how women say that there's nothing you can do to
become better at meeting women... and that you just
need to learn how to "be yourself and things will work
If you're like me, then
you've heard this about a bazillion times from women.
Well guess what? IT'S B.S. "Being yourself" only works
if you're one of the guys that naturally attracts
women. Duh. I mean, if you're not meeting any women in
the first place, then how is acting even MORE like
yourself going to change things? Here's the deal:
If you want to learn how to be more successful with
women and dating, then you need to LEARN how. It
will NEVER happen "on its own". Problem is that most
of the materials out there that teach "relationships
and dating" SUCK. Trust me, I tried most of
them. Go into any bookstore and wander into the
"Self Help" section... and find the area called
"Relationships". Flip through some of the books
you find there. Read things like "Honesty and
good communication are the foundation for a mutually
satisfying relationship" and "Women need compliments
to validate their own sense of worth and beauty". It's
almost enough to make you PUKE. Well, the good
news is that SOMEONE has taken the time to figure this
stuff out, and then explain it in easy-to-understand
language that any guy can understand.
Before you start thanking me,
remember that I didn't do it for YOU originally.
When I started learning this stuff, I did it for ME.
It just so happened that after learning all these
amazing things about how to attract women, I realized
that other guys need to know this stuff too.
SOOOOO... I wrote a book and
put together an Advanced Program. Inside, I reveal and
explain all of the different techniques that I
discovered and developed to meet and attract women
like crazy. Probably the most INTERESTING thing that I
learned was that most of this stuff is "COUNTER
INTUITIVE". In other words, it doesn't MAKE
SENSE when you first hear it.
The things that work to
attract women aren't at all "logical" in the obvious
sense. They often go against everything you've
been taught about how to interact with women.
And they're things that you'll never figure out "by
accident". It just won't happen. If YOU have
made the decision that it's time to learn how to meet
and date women ONCE AND FOR ALL... then you need to
get a STRONG START. I had to spend YEARS figuring this
stuff out for myself... because I couldn't find
anything that worked PREDICTABLY and CONSISTENTLY...
Fortunately, you can "take cuts" and take advantage of
all the time, effort, energy, mistakes, and money I
spent on this "research project"... and just get the
programs I've created to teach you what I learned.
If you're just getting started, then I recommend the
1) Order a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques program on DVD. The DVD
version will allow you to actually SEE the
communication that I and my special guests are
using... and learn my techniques more thoroughly.
This program will teach you a
new way to think about women and attraction, how to
overcome fear and shyness, how to approach women, how
to start conversations and get dates, and how to take
things to a "physical" level smoothly and without
I'm so sure you're going to
get a PRICELESS education from this program, that I'm
willing to let you actually try it out at MY risk.
I'll send it to you (in a plain box, of course) to try
for a month. If you like it, keep it... and I'll bill
you later. If you don't start meeting more women
IMMEDIATELY, just send it back, and you'll pay
nothing. Is that fair?
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