***QUESTION***

Dave:

I'm sure there are a lot of guys out there that

would like your input on this question.

There is something that I haven't seen addressed

in your mailbag or your e-book and that is what to

do when the woman you've have e-mailed or called

didn't reply to the e-mail or phone call and you

see them again. Two personal examples:

Example one:

I meet this girl at my job. Start doing C&F

routine on her: "Why do you look so serious, are

you trying to scare people away. I know inside of

you there's a nice girl that's just dying to come

out." She laughs and I say "That's more like it,

now you don't look so scary." To make a long story

short I ask this girl Friday to give me her phone

number so that we can get together the next day.

She gave me her number and I called, left a

message on her voice mail and she never got back

to me. Saw her the following Monday (she sits

right across from me) and she didn't say anything.

No reason why she didn't call me back. Nothing. I

ended not talking to her. I thought that if I

asked her about why she flaked she would've given

me a lame excuse anyway. I haven't been giving her

too much attention since.

Example two:

I go to this club on a regular basis. I saw this

one girl and started dancing with her. Did some

C&F routine like "Don't get too close", "I don't

even know you that well". She was enjoying it. I

asked her for her number before I left (she didn't

have e-mail). Found out after I called the number

that she gave me a wrong number. I saw her two

weeks afterwards in the same club and just ignored

her.

Now for my question. What should I do when I come

across situations like these again? Act like it

never happened and ignore them or call them on

their bullshit. Sometimes I think women flake as a

test to see what the men are going to do if they

happen to come across them again. I know some guys

will just tell them off? What have you done in

these situations?

RF NYC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First, thanks for this question. I have had

this situation happen to me personally many, many

times, and I'm glad you asked.

One of the things I've talked about before is

how once a person believes something to be "true"

or believes that they understand how something

works, that they tend to make other information or

new things that they learn, fit that older model,

rather than being open to change.

For instance, people who become part of a cult

will tend to take the advice from others, evidence

that they're not doing the right thing etc. to

help convince them that they ARE doing the right

thing.

The reason that I bring this up is because it

sounds to me like you're looking for an answer to

how to solve a problem that you should actually

try to PREVENT in the first place.

I'm going to talk about how to prevent this

problem first, then tell you a few things you can

do when you run into it again in the future as

well.

Here are two things to keep in mind:

1) Women give out their numbers to guys A LOT (on

average). A woman can have all kinds of reasons

for giving out her number. She might like the

attention, or it might even be just to get rid of

a guy.

2) Women expect men to call THEM. And if a man

doesn't reach them when he calls, a woman expects

the man to TRY AGAIN. (In the book "The Rules" -

the book for women about how to get a man to marry

you - the authors tell women not to call men and

rarely return a man's call, because it makes him

think about you and want you more).

If I were you, I'd start thinking about two

approaches:

1) Figure out how to make it so that women WANT to

give you their REAL number and make them WANT to

call you back based on the first meeting.

2) If you got a number instead of email, call her

at least 3 or 4 times before you give up.

To figure out how to make women WANT to call

you back, you might have to work on improving your

humor, your personality, your appearance, or

whatever. In short, you need to learn how to make

a woman feel ATTRACTION for you when you first

meet her. If you don't, she's not likely to call

you back.

Don't go too overboard on this one because a

lot of this issue is just the fact that women

don't return calls as often as men do... but think

it through.

And if you need to learn more about how to

trigger this response called ATTRACTION in women,

then you should probably take a minute and read

through THIS before you read any further:

There are probably a few things you're doing

that make women feel a little strange at first

(this is just a guess, as most guys have things

they could improve).

Maybe you're acting a little too nervous.

Maybe you're acting too "nice" or like you're

"awed" by women.

Maybe you're not making eye contact directly,

and you're giving off a "not-very-confident" vibe.

Think about it.

But the best thing you can do is to just call a

woman on the phone 3 or 4 times before you give

up! (That is, when a woman gives you her REAL

number).

Women expect men to keep trying, so they just

don't call back.

Remember, SHE'S THE WOMAN. She's the one who's

getting approached by interested guys, and who

probably sees you as "just another guy" calling

her.

You must be persistent, keep it cool and low-

key, and keep calling until you reach her.

If a woman gives you a fake number, it just

means that she wanted to get rid of you...

You need to think about how the interaction

went, and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the behavior and communication that made her want to give you a fake number.

Again, think about it and make improvements.

And to answer your question directly of "What

do I do if I see her again afterwards", I'd say

that it all depends.

If you would consider going out with a woman

who has the ethical standard of giving out fake

numbers, then I'd say you might want to reconsider

your choice of women...

And if you would like to talk to a woman who

didn't call you back (maybe you left her a

message, etc.), then I'd come up with something

funny. Cocky & Funny, that is.

Walk over and make fun of her because it's

obvious that she didn't have enough money to pay

her phone bill and when she tried to call you back

she found that her phone was disconnected but that

it's nothing to be ashamed of and you'll take pity

on her and buy her some ramen noodle soup while

she's broke and hungry.

Just make sure you're lighthearted about it,

and you communicate that you could really care

less that she didn't call you back... but that

you're going to take the opportunity to bust on

her because she's in your presence.

In the seminars that I teach, we do some

exercises around body language and other non-

verbal communication.

Your body language says SOOOOO MUCH about you,

and women use body language to decide many, many

things about you.

If your body language and communications aren't

working together to create ATTRACTION, then you're

going to get a lot more fake numbers and a lot

fewer calls back from women.

...And if you're reading this right now and

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I'll talk to you soon.

Your Friend,

David D.