You can be SETTING YOURSELF UP for a big
let-down if things don’t go exactly as you hope
in the timeframe you’ve set up in your mind.

    Not to mention all that anxiety and worry can
cause you to come off as seeming "on edge" and
irritable, which can send the WRONG signal to
the guy.

    If every time the topic of commitment is
brought up you act "on edge", it can really freak
him out and make him start to question your
relationship.

    He might wonder if he’s done something wrong
to make you feel that way…

    And if he feels like the "where’s this going?"
discussion has come totally out of "left field"
and doesn’t understanding where he stands in the
commitment process he may start to feel
mistrustful or resentful of you.

    And if you’re wondering if "dropping hints"
or asking his friends or family for clues about
"what he’s thinking" about a more permanent
commitment is a good strategy - think again.

    That will actually have the OPPOSITE EFFECT
of what you’re hoping to achieve.

    I hope you’re starting to see how easy it is
to create a bunch of negative feelings and
unrealistic expectations around your relationship
when you didn’t intend to.

    So why don’t you step back for a minute and
let me help you get some perspective here.

    Just because you’ve made your own decision
about where you want things to go in your
relationship, it doesn’t mean that something is
necessarily automatically going to CHANGE in your
relationship.

    This is because a man doesn’t commit to a woman
JUST BECAUSE she says he should, or because it’s a
special time of year, or because it’s been exactly
so-many-months or years since you met.

    Many guys aren’t even AWARE of exactly how much
time you’ve been together - or what that means to
you.

    So the fact that he’s being loving and you’re
enjoying the time you spend together is not an
indication IN ITSELF that a man is going to want
to commit to you.

    For a man, a commitment on the level of a
proposal or a ring is the culmination of SEVERAL
THINGS that happen at a much, much deeper level.

    It’s much deeper than feeling pressure from
his friends or family who think he should "get
serious" or "settle down."

    It’s much deeper than simply feeling like it’s
the next logical step in his great relationship
with you.

    In a man’s mind, asking a woman to marry him
or move in with him is an internal decision based
on HOW HE FEELS when he’s with you, and how he
pictures his life with you in the future.

    To find out exactly how a man reaches that
decision, check out this link right now:

    Let me ask you another question.

    How can you tell if your hopes for the
relationship are realistic or just wishful
thinking?

    When your expectations are UNREALISTIC, a few
things might happen, and usually in this order:

— You’ll start to listen for "clues" about how
your man is feeling that either prove or disprove
that he wants to take the "next step." For
example, if he asks you what kind of jewelry you
like, you probably put a mental check-mark next to
the "he wants a commitment" category. (Even
though his question may have nothing to do with
buying you "the ring.")

— You’ll instantly dismiss or "forget" any
conversation or comment where he seems to not be
"in sync" with what you want in your future
together. If what he says doesn’t fit with what
you want, you choose to ignore it (consciously or
subconsciously).