— You fantasize about where your relationship
will be a year or two from now, but you haven’t
actually had real discussions about it with him.

— You have already told your closest friends and
family members that you "think" he’s going to
propose soon, so the pressure is ON - in your mind and on HIM.

    On the other hand, if you have realistic
expectations based on HONESTY and good
communication, chances are you won’t have to
worry that you’re putting out bad "vibes" or
misunderstanding each other.

    Which means that getting a ring or a proposal
will be a pleasant surprise instead of being a
source of WORRY and TENSION all the time.

    Here are a few other clues which will tell you
that you are carrying UNREALISTIC expectations of
your relationship:

1. YOU ASSUME HE WANTS WHAT YOU WANT.

    When the woman feels such an amazing connection
with a man, she assumes that he wants the same
things she does from the relationship. The
assumptions—such as automatically getting a
commitment because things are "going well" and
you’ve been dating a year or two - become so
strong and real that they become BELIEFS.

    When you start to BELIEVE things NEED to
happen a certain way, you’ll have a hard time
even "accepting" it if your relationship differs
from the way you picture it in your mind. And
then, when/if it doesn’t happen, it becomes an
even more monumental "blow" to your relationship.

    Women would like to think that a man should be
able to "read their minds" because of the
connection they share. Guess what? No one is a
mind-reader, no matter how in love they are.

2. YOU HAVE HIDDEN OR UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS.

    Do you expect your relationship to progress in
a certain way or have particular goals that you
have NOT discussed or shared with your boyfriend?

    You may be hoping that he’ll pop the question
soon, but has the idea of a long-term, serious
commitment even been a topic of discussion
between you? If not, you may be setting yourself
up for disappointment if you’re not talking to him
about what you want and need to be happy.

    You may have put off talking to him about what
you want simply because you’re afraid you’ll scare
him off, or because you don’t know how to approach
the subject.

    This can create a disconnect between what you
both expect out of the relationship, which leads
to misunderstandings, fights, resentment and
hurt feelings.

    By the way, if you want to know how to START a
conversation about commitment, and exactly what to
say and how to say it, check out Chapter 8
(page 247) in my e-book, "Catch Him & Keep Him."

    I’ll explain why one particular kind of
approach works BETTER for getting him to start
thinking about committing to you WITHOUT
pleading, arguing, drama or tension.

    Check it out right now if you haven’t already:

    Now, let’s look at the third mistake you may
be making:

3. YOU’RE THINKING COMMITMENT TOO SOON.

    Have you already committed yourself to your
relationship - physically, emotionally and
otherwise - without "checking in" to make sure
the man is AS INVESTED as you are?

    For example, you and your man have amazing
chemistry and everything is always intense when
you’re together - you always have deep and
thoughtful conversations and the way you connect
on a physical level is amazing. You assume things
are "going somewhere" and you aren’t seeing
anyone else… or even considering it for that
matter.

    Are you sure that he’s in the same place you
are?

    Does he think your relationship is headed
toward serious, monogamous commitment and living
together someday?

    How do you know? Have you asked him? Or are
you ASSUMING (re-read point #1 again) that he
automatically wants what you want?

    Sometimes women discover that their man wasn’t
thinking of a future together in the same way
they were.

    In other words, he was enjoying the time he
was spending with you, but wasn’t considering
what it would be like to CREATE A LIFE TOGETHER
or be exclusive.