How many MEN do you know call up their close
guy friends to share their feelings and get
advice for what’s going on in their life and
relationships?

    Not many.

    It’s just not part of the way they deal with
emotions and relationships in their lives.

    Most men spend less time "analyzing" all the
specifics in their relationships… and they
generally have a more personal and internal
way of dealing with or "processing" their
feelings. (Yes, men do have feelings after all.)

    But in case you haven’t noticed, men don’t feel
better or clearer after "analyzing" a situation
the way women do.

    In fact, oftentimes, doing so can actually make
a man feel "drained" instead.

    I think deep down somewhere you recognize
this. Part of you knows men are different in this
way. But another part of you fears or resents this
because it can make a man seem "unengaged" or
shut off from his feelings.

    And that can spell BAD NEWS for women in
relationships where they feel UNCERTAIN.

    Here’s my point…

    Considering all this about how men and women
can be different, how do you think a man is going
to react when a woman isn’t happy with the way a
relationship is going and wants to talk or analyze
why he’s not "feeling it" for her?

    He’ll probably respond negatively, get
irritated, or just shut down altogether.

    Arggggh! Frustrating, right?

    Let me quickly cut to the chase about
what’s going on here…

    There are about 50 things I could tell you
about how your man is at fault and creates these
problems for himself and for you in your
relationship.

    But that’s not going to help you learn anything
about YOURSELF.

    You could spend days, weeks, months or years
worrying about a man, what he thinks, and why he
does the things he does.

    But if you want to be smart…

    And you want relationships to start "working"
for you, then you’ll make sure you have things
handled for yourself first.

    And that way you’ll have the CERTAINTY that
only comes from understanding what’s happening in
the relationship around you… and what YOU need
to do in each situation that comes up with a man,
especially in a case like this where you are
dealing with an "Emotionally Unavailable" man.

    The "Emotionally Unavailable" man is a man
who has one foot out the door.

    One moment he may be ready to step into the
boat with you… he wants to be with you… he
wants to spend all his time with you… and it
seems as though he is ready to start on a
beautiful journey with both of you together.

    Then he stops dead in his tracks and starts
thinking about that boat on the pier. That’s
solid land. Land he knows how to navigate.

    Maybe he’s never been on the boat before
or maybe he doesn’t think he has a "map" in order
to truly understand where the boat is going.
What if their boat hits a rock? What if they
get lost on their journey? (like his comment
about "never having been in love before") Maybe
stepping back on solid ground that he is familiar
with is the only option he sees.

    And so he tells you, "I think we should just
be friends."

    One of the most common, frustrating and
destructive things these men do with women in
relationships is pull away or completely withdraw
emotionally.

    If you’ve ever had this happen and it dragged
on, even just for a few hours or days, then you
know it can feel like a slow "emotional death."

    Well, there’s something that lots of women
don’t recognize that I want to share with you…

    It’s that when it comes to emotional withdrawal
and distance in a relationship, most men DON’T
EVEN UNDERSTAND what it is they’re doing… and
why it would be such a problem for their
relationship.

    Ok, let me repeat that.

    Some men just plain DON’T GET IT.

    And more to the point, don’t want to.

    Got it?