Now, why am I telling you this?

    Because lots of women get upset and try to
analyze the situation with a man to death, trying
to get all kinds of "meaning" from what he tells
them and looking for the deeper reason behind his
distance.

    When in fact, the truth is that lots of men
don’t appreciate how important sharing feelings,
emotions, and experiences are to a relationship,
and to a woman. (Duh!)

    So when a great woman comes along that he
could have an amazing time with and get close
to…

    And she starts noticing that he isn’t as
"involved" emotionally…

    Instead of identifying these for what they
are (part of his natural "masculine" tendency
to pull away and focus in a less emotionally
involved way) she feels rejected, unappreciated
or deadened by it.

    Men who are emotionally unavailable think of
themselves as "easygoing" and "laid back".

    Not "detached" or "distant".

    They’ll say things like:

    "It’s better if we don’t talk about it."

    Or…"Why do you nag me about this stuff?"

    Or… "Don’t worry about it so much?"

    Sound familiar?

    So what’s a woman to do with a man who thinks
or talks this way?

    Accept that he’ll never open up and share
with her?

    Resign herself to a life and a relationship
without real love and connection?

    Dump him and move on?

Well, what I can tell you is that as much as
men are different, a man MUST BE willing to be
part of the learning process that IS a
relationship for love to grow and last.

    Translation - if he’s open to learning and
growth in some way, then he’s not a lost cause.

    Which is why I’ve got two important
questions for you-

Question #1. How open to learning and growth
is the man in your life?

    This is an important question to consider
when you’re thinking about the kind of
relationship you REALLY and truly want, and if
the man you’re interested in is open and willing
to have that.

    The man you choose can help make all the
difference for you.

Question #2. How open are YOU to the idea that
YOUR OWN words and behavior often result in a man
becoming LESS OPEN to learning and growth with
you?

    All healthy, mature people in relationships
learn to take responsibility for their part
in how their partner responds.

    As much as men might be less "emotionally
involved", tons of women are blinded to the
fact that they create more of the situation
they fear most in their relationship - having
a man shut off.

    When you keep getting a man who shuts off
when you try and talk about your feelings, what’s
bothering you, or what’s wrong with your
relationship… it would be a good idea to take a
minute and look at YOUR PART in all of this, and
the way you communicate.

    Like, being ok with getting physical one day,
then being upset that it didn’t "mean" what you
wanted it to mean the next day.

    You see what I’m getting at here?

    But what if you knew about how COMMITMENT
really works inside a man’s mind and heart…
and you had a "map" to get you BOTH to a deeply
committed place together in your relationship,
without coming up against the resistance some men
put up when they tell you they "aren’t ready",
"don’t want to hurt you" or "just want to be
friends" (when it’s clear that they are physically
attracted to you)?

    Would a "map" like this help you feel more
comfortable, guide you smoothly through what was
coming next with a man, and help you grow CLOSER
in your relationship?

    And would you want to know all the juicy
details of HOW and WHY commitment either leads to
more happiness and intimacy, or just makes a man
feel LESS CERTAIN with you than before he become
more emotionally and physically involved with you?

    If you’re interested in learning these things,
then I suggest you go to the link below to check
out all the details about my CD/DVD program:

    "From Casual To Committed"