Want to get married?

NOTE: If and when you find the right man- are
you 100% confident you know how to make it work?

And I mean confident in the way where the man
you’re with is not only hopelessly attracted and
devoted to you- but he feels like he has to "pop
the question" just to make sure he gets to stay
with you.

Is this the kind of relationship and connection
you know how to create with a man?

Or… is there a chance when you’re with the right
man that you’ll again fall into some of the same
predictable patterns that tear things apart?

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think when it comes to love, sex, fidelity and
commitment could not only be keeping you from
having the relationship you want-

But what if it’s actually HURTING your
relationship and accidentally pushing your man
away from you?

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Hey,

    I’ve noticed something fascinating that happens
to a lot of fairly "good" relationships.

    See if you can relate…

    A couple has been dating for several months or
a year or longer and they’re getting along and
have a great connection.

    But even though they have a great time together
and seem to be genuinely in love, the woman begins
to wonder if her guy is finally going to either
pop the question or make a more longer-term
commitment - like moving in together.

    To top it off, maybe her friends or family
are giving her the impression that it’s something
THEY think should happen, too.

    What started out as a comfortable, fairly happy
relationship suddenly starts to feel STRAINED and
awkward because the woman starts "pushing" the guy
into something he’s not ready for.

    Hmmm…

    Are you seeing yourself in this story at all?

    Maybe it’s something that you’re going through
right now?

    Are you wondering if YOUR man is finally going
to pop the question or buy you a ring and make
that last big commitment to you soon ?

    You wonder if he’s just content to keep dating
you forever, with no "real" commitment on the
horizon…

    Or if you will have a real and solid future
together - one that you can feel good about and
plan for.

    So what’s it’s going to take to get him
THINKING about and PLANNING your future together
instead of just feeling "comfortable" with how
things are with you now?

    After all, you’ve been "serious" with him for a
while now. You’ve been seeing each other
exclusively, you’ve been saying "I love you" to
each other and you plan vacations and trips
together. You’ve even met each other’s family.

    So shouldn’t a long-term commitment or proposal
be the NEXT LOGICAL STEP?

    If you’re "living it," why not just make it
official, right?

    Actually, many men do think about it.

    But does it happen JUST BECAUSE it’s the next
logical step, or because the woman is pushing for
it, or does it happen based on SOMETHING ELSE?

    Let’s step back for a minute.

    First of all, I want to bring something
important to your attention.

    If you’re spending A LOT of time feeling
worried and anxious about whether or not any
more time is going to pass by without a ring or
long-term commitment from your man, then this
kind of anxiety can be a dangerous situation
for your relationship.

    You can be SETTING YOURSELF UP for a big
let-down if things don’t go exactly as you hope
in the timeframe you’ve set up in your mind.

    Not to mention all that anxiety and worry can
cause you to come off as seeming "on edge" and
irritable, which can send the WRONG signal to
the guy.

    If every time the topic of commitment is
brought up you act "on edge", it can really freak
him out and make him start to question your
relationship.

    He might wonder if he’s done something wrong
to make you feel that way…

    And if he feels like the "where’s this going?"
discussion has come totally out of "left field"
and doesn’t understanding where he stands in the
commitment process he may start to feel
mistrustful or resentful of you.

    And if you’re wondering if "dropping hints"
or asking his friends or family for clues about
"what he’s thinking" about a more permanent
commitment is a good strategy - think again.

    That will actually have the OPPOSITE EFFECT
of what you’re hoping to achieve.

    I hope you’re starting to see how easy it is
to create a bunch of negative feelings and
unrealistic expectations around your relationship
when you didn’t intend to.

    So why don’t you step back for a minute and
let me help you get some perspective here.

    Just because you’ve made your own decision
about where you want things to go in your
relationship, it doesn’t mean that something is
necessarily automatically going to CHANGE in your
relationship.

    This is because a man doesn’t commit to a woman
JUST BECAUSE she says he should, or because it’s a
special time of year, or because it’s been exactly
so-many-months or years since you met.

    Many guys aren’t even AWARE of exactly how much
time you’ve been together - or what that means to
you.

    So the fact that he’s being loving and you’re
enjoying the time you spend together is not an
indication IN ITSELF that a man is going to want
to commit to you.

    For a man, a commitment on the level of a
proposal or a ring is the culmination of SEVERAL
THINGS that happen at a much, much deeper level.

    It’s much deeper than feeling pressure from
his friends or family who think he should "get
serious" or "settle down."

    It’s much deeper than simply feeling like it’s
the next logical step in his great relationship
with you.

    In a man’s mind, asking a woman to marry him
or move in with him is an internal decision based
on HOW HE FEELS when he’s with you, and how he
pictures his life with you in the future.

    To find out exactly how a man reaches that
decision, check out this link right now:

    Let me ask you another question.

    How can you tell if your hopes for the
relationship are realistic or just wishful
thinking?

    When your expectations are UNREALISTIC, a few
things might happen, and usually in this order:

— You’ll start to listen for "clues" about how
your man is feeling that either prove or disprove
that he wants to take the "next step." For
example, if he asks you what kind of jewelry you
like, you probably put a mental check-mark next to
the "he wants a commitment" category. (Even
though his question may have nothing to do with
buying you "the ring.")

— You’ll instantly dismiss or "forget" any
conversation or comment where he seems to not be
"in sync" with what you want in your future
together. If what he says doesn’t fit with what
you want, you choose to ignore it (consciously or
subconsciously).

— You fantasize about where your relationship
will be a year or two from now, but you haven’t
actually had real discussions about it with him.

— You have already told your closest friends and
family members that you "think" he’s going to
propose soon, so the pressure is ON - in your mind and on HIM.

    On the other hand, if you have realistic
expectations based on HONESTY and good
communication, chances are you won’t have to
worry that you’re putting out bad "vibes" or
misunderstanding each other.

    Which means that getting a ring or a proposal
will be a pleasant surprise instead of being a
source of WORRY and TENSION all the time.

    Here are a few other clues which will tell you
that you are carrying UNREALISTIC expectations of
your relationship:

1. YOU ASSUME HE WANTS WHAT YOU WANT.

    When the woman feels such an amazing connection
with a man, she assumes that he wants the same
things she does from the relationship. The
assumptions—such as automatically getting a
commitment because things are "going well" and
you’ve been dating a year or two - become so
strong and real that they become BELIEFS.

    When you start to BELIEVE things NEED to
happen a certain way, you’ll have a hard time
even "accepting" it if your relationship differs
from the way you picture it in your mind. And
then, when/if it doesn’t happen, it becomes an
even more monumental "blow" to your relationship.

    Women would like to think that a man should be
able to "read their minds" because of the
connection they share. Guess what? No one is a
mind-reader, no matter how in love they are.

2. YOU HAVE HIDDEN OR UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS.

    Do you expect your relationship to progress in
a certain way or have particular goals that you
have NOT discussed or shared with your boyfriend?

    You may be hoping that he’ll pop the question
soon, but has the idea of a long-term, serious
commitment even been a topic of discussion
between you? If not, you may be setting yourself
up for disappointment if you’re not talking to him
about what you want and need to be happy.

    You may have put off talking to him about what
you want simply because you’re afraid you’ll scare
him off, or because you don’t know how to approach
the subject.

    This can create a disconnect between what you
both expect out of the relationship, which leads
to misunderstandings, fights, resentment and
hurt feelings.

    By the way, if you want to know how to START a
conversation about commitment, and exactly what to
say and how to say it, check out Chapter 8
(page 247) in my e-book, "Catch Him & Keep Him."

    I’ll explain why one particular kind of
approach works BETTER for getting him to start
thinking about committing to you WITHOUT
pleading, arguing, drama or tension.

    Check it out right now if you haven’t already:

    Now, let’s look at the third mistake you may
be making:

3. YOU’RE THINKING COMMITMENT TOO SOON.

    Have you already committed yourself to your
relationship - physically, emotionally and
otherwise - without "checking in" to make sure
the man is AS INVESTED as you are?

    For example, you and your man have amazing
chemistry and everything is always intense when
you’re together - you always have deep and
thoughtful conversations and the way you connect
on a physical level is amazing. You assume things
are "going somewhere" and you aren’t seeing
anyone else… or even considering it for that
matter.

    Are you sure that he’s in the same place you
are?

    Does he think your relationship is headed
toward serious, monogamous commitment and living
together someday?

    How do you know? Have you asked him? Or are
you ASSUMING (re-read point #1 again) that he
automatically wants what you want?

    Sometimes women discover that their man wasn’t
thinking of a future together in the same way
they were.

    In other words, he was enjoying the time he
was spending with you, but wasn’t considering
what it would be like to CREATE A LIFE TOGETHER
or be exclusive.

    You can imagine the conflict and hurt feelings
that can develop when one or the other person
finally opens up and admits where their head and
heart are really at - and it doesn’t match the
other person’s experience. Especially if you have
been assuming these beliefs to be true for
months - or EVEN YEARS.

    Many women hold back from sharing their real
feelings and desires because they’re unsure of
what a man is thinking, or how best to have "the
talk" with him.

    When all these pent-up feelings come out, they
create intense "drama" because of all the
passive-aggressive feelings that develop between
the man and woman.

    And if there’s one thing men hate…it’s a
bunch of DRAMA from a woman about the relationship.

    What does drama sound like?

    You might find yourself saying things like,

    "I thought this was going somewhere!"

    "I’m not going to wait around forever, you know."

    And before you know it, there’s an awkwardness
that develops, things feel strained, and he starts
DOUBTING your relationship and his ability to make
you happy.

    Look, I’m not telling you this to discourage
you from getting in touch with what you really
NEED and WANT for your love life, and being able
to share those thoughts with your man.

    But I’d like to help you understand, from a
man’s perspective, how to look at your
relationship CLEARLY and with realistic
expectations based on what you BOTH want - instead
of looking at it as something you "deserve" or
that he "owes" you.

    You with me here?

    OK, good.

    Now that you’ve figured out if your
expectations are realistic or not, think about
this:

    Have you ever known a woman who didn’t have
to spend one single minute worrying or wondering
whether or not her man was going to commit to her?

    It just happened…and she didn’t have to do
anything out of the ordinary or have any kind of
"heavy talk" with the man because he was the one
begging HER for the commitment.

    She didn’t worry about where things were
headed. She didn’t have to threaten him that
she would "move on" if he wasn’t on board with
having a REAL RELATIONSHIP.

    Don’t you wonder what special MINDSET OR
QUALITY a woman like this has, because committed
relationships and love come so easily and
naturally for her?

    It definitely takes a certain kind of woman to
make a man feel like she’s the one and ONLY woman
he wants to be with…now, or in the future.

    Would you like to know how to make your man
feel this way about YOU?

    The key factor that makes a man want to commit
to a woman is whether he feels like he is BETTER
OFF being in a committed relationship with her
than being single.

    He also needs to believe, without a doubt,
that he is better off with her than ANY OTHER
WOMAN.

    If you can unlock a man’s deep desire for true
love and deep connection, you can avoid hearing
the other kinds of fake EXCUSES they give when
they’re not ready.

    Excuses like he "needs to figure out his career
first", or "get his finances in order", or "figure
out where his life is headed" before he can settle
down with you.

    I’ve put together an entire program that shows
you exactly how to trigger a desire for LOVE AND
COMMITMENT in a man…and avoid dealing with
excuses, resistance and withdrawal.

    A real and lasting commitment doesn’t "just
happen" - there are critical steps that have to
happen along the way.

    In my "From Casual To Committed" CD/DVD
program, you’ll also learn:

> How to get your man to come up with his OWN
reasons for committing to you…and get him to
ask you for a commitment FIRST

> How to initiate "the talk" with a man in a way
that makes him EXCITED about getting closer and
more emotionally intimate with you

> The only SURE-FIRE way to know with 100%
accuracy whether your guy is into you for the
long-term, or if you are wasting your time

    …and tons more.

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    I hope that you’ll take the time to understand
how commitment works for a man, so you can
transition effortlessly from an uncertain "casual"
relationship to a more meaningful and long-lasting
one.

    That way, you can actually RELAX and enjoy your
relationship worrying about where it’s going.
You’ll know exactly where your relationship is
headed, and you’ll feel a whole lot more SECURE
about it.

    I’ll talk to you again soon,

    Best of luck in Life and Love,

        Your friend,

        Christian Carter

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