What To Do When A Woman
By David DeAngelo
Ok, so after all these hundreds of e-mails and
testimonials you get, you KNOW this cocky+funny
works, but I must say I'm happy that I FEEL I'm
starting to get it. I had your ebook and cd series
for a few months and I listened to the cds and
read the book over and over. It was great but I
guess its obvious you dont see success until you
get out there and practice it and SEE how it
works. At first, it simply made no sense... I
tried it and didn't get much response until I
developed the character for it and made it apart
of me. Cocky+funny isn't something you try out, its
something you have to make a part of you! When you
do that, c+f comes natural and makes conversations
so much more fun! Not only that it creates that
attraction you talk about so much! So, like I
said, having the right MINDSET is what's
important, not learning LINES, but here's a few I
like. And I could use some of these when I feel
the conversation is drying up.
"Hey...<pause>....quit looking at my ass! I know
you want to jump my bones but slow down!" (even if
she wasn't doing that) (when a woman gets quiet or
there's a break in the conversation) "I know I
make you nervous and all but please...try to
control yourself!" Here's one question I like to
ask: Me: So do you cook...well? Her: Yes, I do.
Me: Great, since you know the way to a man's heart
is through his stomach, you can cook me dinner. I
want....(fill in whatever you want her to cook!)
"You couldn't handle this..." (that one alone works
(if you catch her looking at you...or even if you
dont) "I saw that...I know you keep looking at my
sexy body and you want it so bad you're drooling,
but cant we be friends first?"
"Are you shy or something? Why haven't you asked me
out yet (or asked for my phone number)? I know
you're afraid I'll seduce you and make you fall
madly in love with me but you'll just have to
learn to handle it!" "Tsk tsk tsk...you should be
ashamed of yourself." She says: "Why?" "For trying
to seduce/pickup a guy like me! I know you want me
but be patient!"
(when she does something I dont like) "Well, its
just not working between us. I'm going to have to
cut off the sex, the kisses, the cuddling, all of
it until you be a good girl!" Most of my C+F
focuses on assuming she wants you and is trying to
pick up on you, even if she doesn't! (well,
personally I believe all women want me for my sexy
body and usually when I use the techniques, they
DO!) I think what surprised me the most is that
these work with women I JUST MET! I thought I'd
find it easier to learn C+F from an angle...some
like to bust on women's looks, her clothes,
etc...but I took the approach of accusing her of
being obsessed with me...it works! I also find it
effective to turn around some common things men do
for women...like I tell women to buy ME dinner,
buy ME gifts, take ME out, pick ME up, etc. I love
it! I have so much more fun now and there's no
fear in talking to women anymore... its great.
I know you dont like relationship questions but
I'm going to ask anyhow. Is it necessary to tone
down the cocky+funny when you two become
boyfriend/girlfriend? (not cut it off completely,
but tone it down) And second, how do you respond
when women start challenging you back? (her
saying: "you couldn't handle this" for example) I
know you shouldn't turn wussy but I dont have a
good response to her turning it on me...which I
like the challenge of it but I'd like to know some
good comebacks. Thanks a million Dave! GT from
Those are some GREAT "one-liners" you shared.
Some are personal favorites of mine... and some
WILL BE SOON.
I really dig the whole "You couldn't handle
I personally love to say, "We'd fight all the
time... and I'D WIN". That's a big winner. Try it
I also love the idea of using gender
stereotypes, turning gender stereotypes around,
using them as comedy, etc...
You can combine this idea with a "setup"-
starting out sounding like a Wussy, then going in
a completely different direction right at the end
You say to a really attractive, interesting
woman something like, "You know, you really seem
like a smart woman... you're obviously more
intelligent than the average girl..."
Then you say, "And since you probably
understand men better than most women, you've
probably already realized that you being a woman,
and me being a challenging man, YOU COULDN'T
Ohhh, I love that kind of thing!
The magic of a setup like that one is that she
BEGINS to think that you're a Wussbag from hell,
but when you get to the end of what you're saying,
she realizes that you were saying something
What you were REALLY saying is, "I understand
that most guys act like Wussies and give you
compliments, but the fact is that any compliment I
give you is sarcasm, and, in fact, you really
couldn't handle me... because you didn't even see
So, what is it about this kind of approach and
humor that makes it SOOOO special and wonderfully
Answer: It says SO many things at the same time
that are all "the right thing"...
In other words, instead of trying to
demonstrate that you're not a Wuss, that you're
funny, that you're smart, that you "get it", and
that you don't NEED her... you can just use a
comment like this one.
Now let's talk about your questions...
You asked if one should "turn down" the Cocky &
Funny once you get into a long-term
I personally think NOT.
Why would you?
If you've found something that works, why would
you stop doing it?
In fact, I've seen SOOOO many situations in my
life where a guy started out doing all the right
things, then after "getting the girl", and winding
up in a long-term relationship, they change what
they're doing, become boring and predictable, and
lose the girl because they became dull and lame.
As you know, I'm kind of violating one of my
rules of thumb, and talking about relationships...
but since I'm at it, I'll make a few more
Have you ever heard things like "relationships
take work" and "you have to put a lot into a
relationship if you want to get a lot out of
I'm sure you have.
MOST guys interpret this to mean that after you
get into a relationship you should start doing
whatever your girlfriend/wife wants you to, and
not argue with her.
In other words, most guys think that "put a lot
into a relationship" means "turn into SuperWuss
and kiss as much ass as possible so you won't get
I'm sure you can tell just by the way I'm
talking that I don't think this is a particularly
smart way to go about things...
In fact, if you want to wake up one day in the
future with an unhappy, unsatisfied, complaining
girlfriend or wife, then start using this
If a woman "falls for you", then that MEANS
It means that whatever you were doing at the
Now, if you were being Cocky & Funny, then that
So keep it up.
An exception: If you were chasing a woman for
ten years, buying her thousands of dollars worth
of gifts, flowers, and dinners, and one day she
finally "decided that you were good marriage
material" and she finally "gave in"... then don't
listen to what I just said.
In fact, if you are in the above situation, you
are probably beyond help, so delete this
newsletter right now, and don't read any further.
It will only depress you and mess up your
On to your second question (the one I like best
"How do you respond when women start challenging
Why do I like this question best?
Because you're missing something...
If you start challenging a woman and teasing
her, and she starts challenging you back, IT IS
Game on, dude!
Didn't you see Top Gun?
She just ENGAGED.
She just joined you in YOUR REALITY (for those
who don't know what this means, refer to my
Advanced Dating Techniques program... this is a
KEY concept for attracting women).
Most guys interpret a woman challenging them
back as her saying "I don't find you interesting"
or "You don't impress me".
It's usually exactly the OPPOSITE.
When a woman teases or challenges back it means
that she's INTO IT.
She's saying, "Oh yeah? Bring it on... let's
On the "surface" she's saying "You couldn't
handle this", but on a subtle level she's saying
"I have received your Sexual Communication, and I
am transmitting on your frequency... let's rock
So, how should you handle it?
Try this formula:
2) Slowly wrinkle your brow and smile smugly.
4) Keep looking her in the eye (don't flinch).
5) Say, "Oh, you think? What, I'd get bored that
fast? You're probably right..."
Are you with me here?
TURN UP THE VOLUME.
The game is now officially ON, so PLAY BALL.
The great thing about a situation like this one
is that she is HELPING YOU dial up the chemistry
and sexual tension.
She is making it MUCH EASIER for you to make
her feel ATTRACTION for you.
These are the types of situations that often
end with "And at the end of the night she suddenly
jumped on me and ripped my clothes off...".
I'm not kidding. Not at all.
But if you flinch and let her know that she
just disturbed your composure, you are TOAST.
It's all over.
This little moment of truth can take things to
the next level FAST... or it can end your chances
with her INSTANTLY.
When a woman challenges you back in a Cocky &
Funny way, she has just pressed the accelerator
pedal to the floor.
She just upped the ante.
She pushed all her chips in to see if you're
going to puss out and fold.
She's not wasting any time... she wants to know
if you are MAN or BOY.
If you casually chuckle to yourself inside and
mentally say to yourself "what a cute little
bratty girl" and then bust on her, you'll win.
If you get nervous and slip, you'll lose.
Here's another insight for you:
This kind of woman is the MOST FUN to be
But she's also the biggest challenge.
She'll keep testing you over and over and over
And just when you thought it was safe to pull
back to "nice guy", she'll be off like a shot.
Read what I have written to you, grasshopper...
and take heed.
I have lost many a hottie because I didn't "get
it" when it came down to one of these situations.
Learn from my mistakes.
Be the guy who casually stands there with one
hand behind your back blocking all the punches
from your opponent and teasing him for being a
Wuss at the same time...
Not the guy who's sweating his ass off and
flailing around like a child who's getting
frustrated because his older brother is beating
This is Jedi stuff, man.
Go watch the scene in the original "Matrix"
where Neo is in the ring with Morpheus for the
first time... watch and listen to what happens.
The more you work with this material, the more
you'll begin to have a "sixth sense" about women
and the sexual tension that's created when you use
the techniques you've learned in my Advanced
...Oh, and if you're reading this right now and
you HAVEN'T gotten your copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques Program yet, then you need to go and do
Have you ever been to a carnival or county
You know those games that you can play and win
a huge stuffed animal... and all it takes is a
dollar or two to play?
You walk over to check it out, and the guy
behind the counter says "Here, watch... it's
EASY"... and then he demonstrates how to win the
You watch him with your own two eyes.
It looks SIMPLE.
Then he says, "Here, I'll even give you a
PRACTICE TRY so you can try it...".
Of course, on your practice try you get CLOSE,
but not quite.
He says, "Here, buy three and I'll give you two
Of course, you wind up losing your money, and
not winning anything.
Now, why is it that the guy behind the counter
can win so easily, and show you over and over and
over how simple it is to win... but when YOU try,
it's just not possible?
Because he KNOWS SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T.
He knows the SECRET.
Well, meeting women is very similar.
If you don't KNOW THE SECRET, you can watch a
guy "pick up" a woman, and TOTALLY MISS the "keys"
to how he did it.
In fact, it's very common for me to be teasing
and flirting with a woman, and have guys around me
and her say, "Oh, he's just kidding" or "He doesn't
really mean that stuff"...
In other words, they're standing right there
and SEEING IT WORK, but they JUST DON'T GET IT!
It took me YEARS to finally "figure out the
trick", and start to GET what was going on... and
what makes a women feel ATTRACTION for a guy she's
just met (as well as understanding why it is that
most women reject most men almost instantly).
I've created a few programs that are
specifically focused on teaching you how to spark
ATTRACTION... and how to then AMPLIFY the
attraction to the point where a woman is obsessed
In my "Sexual Communication" program, I will
take you "behind the scenes" and teach you all
about how and why women become attracted to some
men and not others... and how to use subtle body
language and voice tone... along with patterns of
communication that most men don't know... to
create and build chemistry and attraction with
It took me many years of research, testing, and
refining to really begin to "see" that this stuff
was going on... and I'll teach you all about it
and how to use it to get better results with women
Go watch some great video preview clips of the
program here, and you'll see what I mean:
If you've already gone through my Sexual
Communication program, and you'd like to learn
more about the technique I call "Cocky & Funny",
then it's time for you to get your hands on a copy
of my "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program.
Not only is this technique FUN, but it also
creates and builds Sexual Tension and attraction
faster than just about any other communication
Inside this program, I'll teach you the
biological roots of humor and laughter (hint: most
of the time when people laugh, it's NOT at
something funny... think about it)... and I'll
teach you how to use humor and tension to really
AMP-UP the attraction with women.
And I'll talk to you again soon.