What To Do When A Woman "Challenges" You

By David DeAngelo

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Hey Dave!

Ok, so after all these hundreds of e-mails and

testimonials you get, you KNOW this cocky+funny

works, but I must say I'm happy that I FEEL I'm

starting to get it. I had your ebook and cd series

for a few months and I listened to the cds and

read the book over and over. It was great but I

guess its obvious you dont see success until you

get out there and practice it and SEE how it

works. At first, it simply made no sense... I

tried it and didn't get much response until I

developed the character for it and made it apart

of me. Cocky+funny isn't something you try out, its

something you have to make a part of you! When you

do that, c+f comes natural and makes conversations

so much more fun! Not only that it creates that

attraction you talk about so much! So, like I

said, having the right MINDSET is what's

important, not learning LINES, but here's a few I

like. And I could use some of these when I feel

the conversation is drying up.

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"Hey...<pause>....quit looking at my ass! I know

you want to jump my bones but slow down!" (even if

she wasn't doing that) (when a woman gets quiet or

there's a break in the conversation) "I know I

make you nervous and all but please...try to

control yourself!" Here's one question I like to

ask: Me: So do you cook...well? Her: Yes, I do.

Me: Great, since you know the way to a man's heart

is through his stomach, you can cook me dinner. I

want....(fill in whatever you want her to cook!)

"You couldn't handle this..." (that one alone works


(if you catch her looking at you...or even if you

dont) "I saw that...I know you keep looking at my

sexy body and you want it so bad you're drooling,

but cant we be friends first?"

"Are you shy or something? Why haven't you asked me

out yet (or asked for my phone number)? I know

you're afraid I'll seduce you and make you fall

madly in love with me but you'll just have to

learn to handle it!" "Tsk tsk tsk...you should be

ashamed of yourself." She says: "Why?" "For trying

to seduce/pickup a guy like me! I know you want me

but be patient!"

(when she does something I dont like) "Well, its

just not working between us. I'm going to have to

cut off the sex, the kisses, the cuddling, all of

it until you be a good girl!" Most of my C+F

focuses on assuming she wants you and is trying to

pick up on you, even if she doesn't! (well,

personally I believe all women want me for my sexy

body and usually when I use the techniques, they

DO!) I think what surprised me the most is that

these work with women I JUST MET! I thought I'd

find it easier to learn C+F from an angle...some

like to bust on women's looks, her clothes,

etc...but I took the approach of accusing her of

being obsessed with me...it works! I also find it

effective to turn around some common things men do

for women...like I tell women to buy ME dinner,

buy ME gifts, take ME out, pick ME up, etc. I love

it! I have so much more fun now and there's no

fear in talking to women anymore... its great.

I know you dont like relationship questions but

I'm going to ask anyhow. Is it necessary to tone

down the cocky+funny when you two become

boyfriend/girlfriend? (not cut it off completely,

but tone it down) And second, how do you respond

when women start challenging you back? (her

saying: "you couldn't handle this" for example) I

know you shouldn't turn wussy but I dont have a

good response to her turning it on me...which I

like the challenge of it but I'd like to know some

good comebacks. Thanks a million Dave! GT from




Those are some GREAT "one-liners" you shared.

Some are personal favorites of mine... and some


I really dig the whole "You couldn't handle

this" concept.

I personally love to say, "We'd fight all the

time... and I'D WIN". That's a big winner. Try it


I also love the idea of using gender

stereotypes, turning gender stereotypes around,

using them as comedy, etc...

You can combine this idea with a "setup"-

starting out sounding like a Wussy, then going in

a completely different direction right at the end

for effect.

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You say to a really attractive, interesting

woman something like, "You know, you really seem

like a smart woman... you're obviously more

intelligent than the average girl..."

Then you say, "And since you probably

understand men better than most women, you've

probably already realized that you being a woman,

and me being a challenging man, YOU COULDN'T


Ohhh, I love that kind of thing!

The magic of a setup like that one is that she

BEGINS to think that you're a Wussbag from hell,

but when you get to the end of what you're saying,

she realizes that you were saying something


What you were REALLY saying is, "I understand

that most guys act like Wussies and give you

compliments, but the fact is that any compliment I

give you is sarcasm, and, in fact, you really

couldn't handle me... because you didn't even see

THAT coming!

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So, what is it about this kind of approach and

humor that makes it SOOOO special and wonderfully


Answer: It says SO many things at the same time

that are all "the right thing"...

In other words, instead of trying to

demonstrate that you're not a Wuss, that you're

funny, that you're smart, that you "get it", and

that you don't NEED her... you can just use a

comment like this one.

Good stuff.

Now let's talk about your questions...

You asked if one should "turn down" the Cocky &

Funny once you get into a long-term


I personally think NOT.

Why would you?

If you've found something that works, why would

you stop doing it?

In fact, I've seen SOOOO many situations in my

life where a guy started out doing all the right

things, then after "getting the girl", and winding

up in a long-term relationship, they change what

they're doing, become boring and predictable, and

lose the girl because they became dull and lame.

As you know, I'm kind of violating one of my

rules of thumb, and talking about relationships...

but since I'm at it, I'll make a few more


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Have you ever heard things like "relationships

take work" and "you have to put a lot into a

relationship if you want to get a lot out of


I'm sure you have.

MOST guys interpret this to mean that after you

get into a relationship you should start doing

whatever your girlfriend/wife wants you to, and

not argue with her.

In other words, most guys think that "put a lot

into a relationship" means "turn into SuperWuss

and kiss as much ass as possible so you won't get

into trouble".

I'm sure you can tell just by the way I'm

talking that I don't think this is a particularly

smart way to go about things...

In fact, if you want to wake up one day in the

future with an unhappy, unsatisfied, complaining

girlfriend or wife, then start using this

particular approach.

If a woman "falls for you", then that MEANS


It means that whatever you were doing at the

time WORKED.

Now, if you were being Cocky & Funny, then that

was working.

So keep it up.

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An exception: If you were chasing a woman for

ten years, buying her thousands of dollars worth

of gifts, flowers, and dinners, and one day she

finally "decided that you were good marriage

material" and she finally "gave in"... then don't

listen to what I just said.

In fact, if you are in the above situation, you

are probably beyond help, so delete this

newsletter right now, and don't read any further.

It will only depress you and mess up your

"nice" relationship...

On to your second question (the one I like best


"How do you respond when women start challenging

you back?"

Why do I like this question best?

Because you're missing something...

If you start challenging a woman and teasing

her, and she starts challenging you back, IT IS


Game on, dude!

Didn't you see Top Gun?

She just ENGAGED.

She just joined you in YOUR REALITY (for those

who don't know what this means, refer to my

Advanced Dating Techniques program... this is a

KEY concept for attracting women).

Most guys interpret a woman challenging them

back as her saying "I don't find you interesting"

or "You don't impress me".

It's usually exactly the OPPOSITE.

When a woman teases or challenges back it means

that she's INTO IT.

She's saying, "Oh yeah? Bring it on... let's


On the "surface" she's saying "You couldn't

handle this", but on a subtle level she's saying

"I have received your Sexual Communication, and I

am transmitting on your frequency... let's rock

and roll".

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So, how should you handle it?

Try this formula:

1) Pause.

2) Slowly wrinkle your brow and smile smugly.

3) Pause.

4) Keep looking her in the eye (don't flinch).

5) Say, "Oh, you think? What, I'd get bored that

fast? You're probably right..."

Are you with me here?


The game is now officially ON, so PLAY BALL.

The great thing about a situation like this one

is that she is HELPING YOU dial up the chemistry

and sexual tension.

She is making it MUCH EASIER for you to make

her feel ATTRACTION for you.

These are the types of situations that often

end with "And at the end of the night she suddenly

jumped on me and ripped my clothes off...".

I'm not kidding. Not at all.

But if you flinch and let her know that she

just disturbed your composure, you are TOAST.

It's all over.

This little moment of truth can take things to

the next level FAST... or it can end your chances

with her INSTANTLY.

When a woman challenges you back in a Cocky &

Funny way, she has just pressed the accelerator

pedal to the floor.

She just upped the ante.

She pushed all her chips in to see if you're

going to puss out and fold.

She's not wasting any time... she wants to know

if you are MAN or BOY.

If you casually chuckle to yourself inside and

mentally say to yourself "what a cute little

bratty girl" and then bust on her, you'll win.

If you get nervous and slip, you'll lose.

Here's another insight for you:

This kind of woman is the MOST FUN to be


But she's also the biggest challenge.

She'll keep testing you over and over and over

again... relentlessly.

And just when you thought it was safe to pull

back to "nice guy", she'll be off like a shot.


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Read what I have written to you, grasshopper...

and take heed.

I have lost many a hottie because I didn't "get

it" when it came down to one of these situations.

Learn from my mistakes.

Be the guy who casually stands there with one

hand behind your back blocking all the punches

from your opponent and teasing him for being a

Wuss at the same time...

Not the guy who's sweating his ass off and

flailing around like a child who's getting

frustrated because his older brother is beating

him up...

This is Jedi stuff, man.

Go watch the scene in the original "Matrix"

where Neo is in the ring with Morpheus for the

first time... watch and listen to what happens.

The more you work with this material, the more

you'll begin to have a "sixth sense" about women

and the sexual tension that's created when you use

the techniques you've learned in my Advanced


...Oh, and if you're reading this right now and

you HAVEN'T gotten your copy of my Advanced Dating

Techniques Program yet, then you need to go and do


Have you ever been to a carnival or county


You know those games that you can play and win

a huge stuffed animal... and all it takes is a

dollar or two to play?

You walk over to check it out, and the guy

behind the counter says "Here, watch... it's

EASY"... and then he demonstrates how to win the


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You watch him with your own two eyes.

It looks SIMPLE.

Easy, even.

Then he says, "Here, I'll even give you a

PRACTICE TRY so you can try it...".

Of course, on your practice try you get CLOSE,

but not quite.

He says, "Here, buy three and I'll give you two

for nothing'".

Of course, you wind up losing your money, and

not winning anything.

Now, why is it that the guy behind the counter

can win so easily, and show you over and over and

over how simple it is to win... but when YOU try,

it's just not possible?


He knows the SECRET.

Well, meeting women is very similar.

If you don't KNOW THE SECRET, you can watch a

guy "pick up" a woman, and TOTALLY MISS the "keys"

to how he did it.

In fact, it's very common for me to be teasing

and flirting with a woman, and have guys around me

and her say, "Oh, he's just kidding" or "He doesn't

really mean that stuff"...

In other words, they're standing right there


It took me YEARS to finally "figure out the

trick", and start to GET what was going on... and

what makes a women feel ATTRACTION for a guy she's

just met (as well as understanding why it is that

most women reject most men almost instantly).

I've created a few programs that are

specifically focused on teaching you how to spark

ATTRACTION... and how to then AMPLIFY the

attraction to the point where a woman is obsessed

with you.

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In my "Sexual Communication" program, I will

take you "behind the scenes" and teach you all

about how and why women become attracted to some

men and not others... and how to use subtle body

language and voice tone... along with patterns of

communication that most men don't know... to

create and build chemistry and attraction with


It took me many years of research, testing, and

refining to really begin to "see" that this stuff

was going on... and I'll teach you all about it

and how to use it to get better results with women


Go watch some great video preview clips of the

program here, and you'll see what I mean:

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If you've already gone through my Sexual

Communication program, and you'd like to learn

more about the technique I call "Cocky & Funny",

then it's time for you to get your hands on a copy

of my "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program.

Not only is this technique FUN, but it also

creates and builds Sexual Tension and attraction

faster than just about any other communication


Inside this program, I'll teach you the

biological roots of humor and laughter (hint: most

of the time when people laugh, it's NOT at

something funny... think about it)... and I'll

teach you how to use humor and tension to really

AMP-UP the attraction with women.

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And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo