I have a friend who has lucky underwear. I'd take this
opportunity to make fun of her, but, you see, I have lucky shoes.
In a recent conversation with some single friends of both sexes,
I began to realize that nearly everyone has some sort of first
date ritual, be it lucky monkey boxer shorts, wearing a shade
of red lipstick with a winning streak, or eating deep-fried onion
rings. (Okay, the onion ring thing was me - sort of a first-date
Murphy's Law - meaning that if you ate onion rings and spent
the entire night trying not to breathe on someone, they would
inevitably try to kiss you.) Actually, the onion ring thing had a
pretty good track record...
Among the most bizarre of the rituals
- A pedicure with OPI's "I'm not really a waitress" red.
- Not eating any fish while on the date. (huh?)
- Drinking a glass of milk before the date arrives.
- Putting raspberry hand sanitizer on the feet (apparently it cuts
down on bad smells in case you end up removing your shoes.)
Does cuddling a white ferret in the pet store or calling your
mother exactly 37 minutes before you meet your date really
improve your chances for a successful match? I may be going
out on a limb here, but I think it probably does. Why?
Because rituals make us feel more comfortable and confident ,
and the more comfortable we feel, the more likely we are to
relax and have a good time. And that makes us more likely
to have a fabulous first date.
So, the next time you're getting ready for a fist date that could
be "The One" go ahead eat the eight bananas, wear your lucky
blue shirt or the fabulous little "first-date" dress. Do whatever
it takes to feel as confident (and lucky) as you can. And, if you
start to feel a little strange, remember you're not the only one.
Your date is probably busy grooming the cat wearing lucky socks.
Dating Expert Lisa Daily is
an internationally known dating coach and the author of
Stop Getting Dumped!
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with you and marry "The One" in 3 years or less.
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