Let me ask you a
question.
What is "SUCCESS" to
you when it comes to
women?
If I asked you to
give me a detailed
explanation of
EXACTLY how your life would be if
you had ULTIMATE
SUCCESS with women, could you do it?
Sure, most guys would
say something like,
"Success to me would
be being able to walk up to
any woman and get a
date with her"... or "Success
to me would be dating
as many women as I
wanted"... or
"Success to me would be having a really sexy
girlfriend", etc.
These are the kinds
of answers I hear when I
ask guys this
question.
But there's a PROBLEM
with these answers.
NONE OF THEM REALLY
MEAN ANYTHING.
If you learn how to
approach any woman and get
a date, you'll soon
find that you don't know what
to DO once you're
actually out ON the dates... how
to take things to a
physical level, how to kiss her, etc...
If you start dating
several women at a time,
you'll quickly
realize that it's a MAJOR challenge
to juggle all of
those relationships and maintain a happy life...
If you find a really
sexy girlfriend, there's a
good chance that
she'll have a whole bunch of
personal issues and
problems that you never anticipated...
You have to be
careful what you wish for in
life, because you'll
often get it.
I've found that guys
usually make TWO major
mistakes when it
comes to SUCCESS with women:
1) Most guys haven't
really thought through what
success means to them
in detail.
2) Most guys base
their personal idea of success
on what OTHERS want,
and not what THEY want for themselves.
In fact, I was one of
the guys that made BOTH of these mistakes.
I can remember when I
first decided to ONCE AND
FOR ALL learn how to
be "successful" with women.
I had this idea in my
mind that if I could just
learn how to get
women's phone numbers quickly and
easily that I would
be successful beyond my wildest dreams.
So I went to work on
figuring it out.
I probably spent a
good six or twelve months
trying all kinds of
different tricks to get
women's phone numbers
quickly.
And I figured out
some great techniques.
I can literally get a
woman's number within a
few minutes of
meeting her.
But once I learned
this skill, I was hit with a
MAJOR realization:
Most of the women I was meeting
never turned into
DATES.
They either didn't
return my calls, refused my
requests, or just
plain flaked out on me. It was VERY frustrating.
The other problem I
had was looking around at
what OTHER guys were
doing and saying, "I want to
be able to do what HE
does..." or "I want to date
the kinds of women HE
dates".
And I secretly had
this idea that if I knew how
to date HOT women
that all my friends would like
me more and think I
was a really cool guy.
Well guess what?
First of all, just because another guy is doing
something, doesn't
mean that it would make ME
happy. In fact, I
realized that in many cases it
wasn't even making
HIM happy.
I couldn't help
comparing my success and the
women I was dating
with other guys, and the women they were dating.
But it was a trap.
The more a person
looks at what OTHERS are
doing and focusing on
that, the less satisfied
they are with what
THEY are doing themselves.
And as far as other
guys thinking I was "cool"
because I was dating
beautiful women... WRONG AGAIN.
Guys (even friends)
usually envy you and resent
the fact that you
have success and they don't.
Especially when it
comes to really beautiful women.
So much for those
losing strategies.
SO WHAT'S THE ANSWER?
Well, it's taken me a
few years to really put
all the puzzle pieces
together and figure out how to resolve these issues.
Here's what I've come
up with:
1) REALLY THINK ABOUT
WHAT SUCCESS MEANS TO YOU IN
DETAIL, AND WRITE IT
DOWN.
Take the time (even
if it takes days or
weeks... or longer)
and think through what you want for yourself.
Do a little "self
examination" (no, not down
there), and be honest
with yourself.
See if you can figure
out where your idea of
"what success is"
came from.
Did it come from
watching movies?
Did it come from guys
you know?
Where did you get
your model of what "success with women" is?
Once you've figured
out where some of your
ideas came from, then
think about what you want.
Think about your life
and your lifestyle.
Instead of looking at
Playboy and thinking to
yourself "I'd sure
like to have seven blonde
girlfriends in my
bed", try thinking about what
would make you HAPPY
on an ongoing basis.
Take some time to
write down the things you
like in a woman.
Write down what you DON'T like.
Get a clear picture
in your mind of how you'd
like your life to be,
and what kind of success
with women would make
your life more enjoyable.
After researching
this topic for a few years
now, I've come to the
opinion that most guys
(80%-90%) actually
want to have a great long-term
relationship with a
fantastic woman.
Sure, some guys want
to date around and sleep
with a lot of women,
but the majority of guys
would really like to
meet an exceptional woman and
share a great
connection... long term. But guess what?
You're not going to
walk outside after you're
finished reading this
and find that particular
woman waiting on the
corner for you.
In fact, you're
probably not going to meet her anytime soon.
If you want to find a
REALLY exceptional woman
that is beautiful,
intelligent, funny, emotionally
stable, financially
independent, loving, etc.,
then you're probably
going to have to date QUITE A FEW
women in order to
FIND her.
And when you DO find
her, you can bet your ass
that she's IN DEMAND.
She probably has MANY guys
who are interested in
her on an ongoing basis, and
she KNOWS that she
has options.
TRANSLATION: You'd
better have your sh**
together when you do
meet her, and you'd better
not be acting like an
idiot.
So think through what
success means to you,
what you want, what
you don't want, and how you'd
like your life to
look ideally when it comes to women and dating.
If you're having
trouble deciding what you
REALLY want in life,
and what you REALLY want when
it comes to meeting
women, then go read THIS:
2) LEARN THE RARE
SKILL OF MAKING WOMEN FEEL THE
MAGICAL EMOTION
CALLED ATTRACTION.
I have spent a long
time now searching for the
secrets of how
ATTRACTION works.
You'd probably guess
that something as
IMPORTANT and as
POWERFUL as ATTRACTION would be well-researched and
widely written about.
Well guess what?
I can't find even ONE
good book, audio tape
series, seminar or
web site that describes it.
NOT EVEN ONE.
I've read all kinds
of "opinions" on
attraction, but when
I really compare what I read
and hear to my own
personal knowledge and
experience, I always
shake my head and say to
myself "No, that's
not right".
And by the way, if
you've found a book, tape,
seminar, or web site,
etc., that lays it all out,
let me know. I think
I've reviewed just about
everything out there
and met a lot of the experts
on the topic... but
maybe I've missed something.
The point is that I
think that success in this
area of life
basically ALL comes down to understanding ATTRACTION.
I'm not talking about
being "physically
attractive", I'm
talking about the EMOTION of ATTRACTION.
If a woman feels
ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters.
His looks don't
matter, his income doesn't
matter, his age
doesn't matter... nothing matters.
On the other hand, if
a woman DOESN'T feel
ATTRACTION for a man,
then nothing else matters!
His looks, income,
age, etc. just don't matter.
Nothing he can do can
make her feel that emotion.
Sure, a woman can
"fall for" a guy over time.
But in these rare
cases it's not because of
ATTRACTION. It's
because she starts to feel an
AFFECTION for him,
and settles for a long-term
relationship.
Incidentally, this usually involves
a man who pursues a
woman, buys her gifts and
dinners, behaves in a
way that puts her value
above his, etc. And,
incidentally, it usually
involves a woman who
feels like she's SETTLING.
BUT, if you know how
to make a woman feel that
amazing and unique
emotion called ATTRACTION, then
you will be in
control of your dating success...
and YOU can decide on
and control what happens to you.
A man who has his
life together and actually
understands how to
make a woman feel ATTRACTION is
FAR more rare than a
beautiful woman. Think about that.
An exceptional man
who understands ATTRACTION
is FAR more rare,
valuable, and desirable than
even the most
BEAUTIFUL woman.
If you don't believe
me, then ASK some
beautiful women how
many men like this they've known in their lifetimes.
They'll count them
all on one hand. You'll see.
And the best part, in
my personal opinion, is
that it doesn't take
any unusual talents, physical
attributes, or large
sums of money to learn these skills.
All it takes is an
understanding of how
ATTRACTION works, a
desire to learn it, and the
discipline to learn,
practice, and improve over time.
What's a good way to
get started? Well, you're doing it.
I think that reading
these newsletters is one
of the best ways to
get a handle on how to make women feel ATTRACTION.
What's an even BETTER
way?
As far as I'm
concerned, the very BEST way you
can learn how to make
women feel the emotion of
ATTRACTION (and more
importantly, feel it for YOU)
is to listen to
and/or watch my Advanced Dating Techniques program on
DVD.
This program is the
culmination of several
YEARS of my personal
research, trial and error, and refining.
I've taken knowledge
from various fields...
from brain research
and psychology, to animal
behavior and mating
patterns... and combined it
with my real-world
personal experience of figuring out what works.
There's no fluff, and
no B.S.
One of the most
common things I hear about this
program is "This
material has completely changed
the way I think about
women".
I certainly wish that
I would have had this
program about five
years ago... when I started out.
It would have saved
me about THREE years, and
probably thousands of
hours of wasted time.
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